1. Fostering Predictability
Everyone is facing huge change right now. Years of studies have shown that predictable daily patterns are helpful during a crisis. Patterned daily rhythms promote a sense of safety. Simple things like book time, meal times and play times are extremely important at the moment for both adults and children.
2. Embracing Difference
Right now, things are different. Holding onto what is lost is exhausting. When you want for what is not currently possible, try to shift your thinking to how can we do things even better. Sometimes old patterns are not always the best way to be. Resilience at times like this can be hard, but we are very creative when put to the test.
3. Boosting Energy
You need to make times to reboot your emotional and physical energy levels. The energy required during this time is exhausting. You need to make a conscious effort to make time for yourself, if you are going to emotionally and physically survive. Creative thinking may be required. Prioritise five minutes of self-care at some stage, then increase it to twice a day, then three times a day. Notice how different you are after a moment to recharge.
4. Being With
Children will need more to feel secure during times of change. Factor in connection time, a moment to sit and eat a snack together, read a book or watch the clouds. It can sound so obvious, but when feeling exhausted we forget to just 'be with' our children. Not doing, but being.
A crisis is not a welcome event, but our past tells us we do manage. Somehow, we will make it through.
Hang in there and call out for help when you need it. Talk to your friends, family, GP or maternal child and family health nurse.
Stay in touch with people.
Best wishes Helen x
Author: Helen Stevens. RN. RM. MCHN. BAppSc. MMHS. Manager of Clinical Services, Education and Research.
Parent Infant Consultants.
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